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Update
10.15.06 (7:25 pm)   [edit]
Sooooo school is good, birthday is comming up *whoo* been talking to Ev, things are pretty good, ummm doing yoga mmm yoga, mmm bendy hahahahaha im so sore and tired so brain not working but thats whats going on
 
Wow
09.09.06 (1:19 pm)   [edit]
Evalee says: You'll be excited to know that Neil and I are no longer getting married, so you can't be upset with Brandi about being in a non-existant wedding party This was a message that I got on my MSN today. I dont know why she would think that I would be excited to know that. What a horrible thing to say. I wished her the best, and I still do. Im sorry she is going through this. I was never mad at the wedding party thing, there were other reasons and there still are. Evalee, if you read this, I wish you the best, and I am sorry things ended the way they did between us. Good Luck in the future
 
Just A Reminder
09.05.06 (4:07 pm)   [edit]
I rock!!!
 
Thoughts
09.01.06 (3:12 pm)   [edit]

Monogamy Is Not A Cure For Jealousy.  I was a line I read in The Ethical Slut.  It made me smile.

Tonight im staying at B and K's cause it their wedding tomorrow and I am the maid of honor - well I guess that would be the Matron seeing as I am married and older *laughs* not yet 26 and im older *eep*

This sunday is YOGA!!!!! whooooo it will be me, Laine, Dani, and Jess.  No Ryan cause the mice call him to work :( boo work!

Cut my hours down to two days a week, so more time for other people and more time for me and more time for massage work *whoot*

Hopefuly soon I find out about the AIDS clinic, that will be a great experince!

Video games call me must go play *MUWAHAHAHAHAHA*

 
STUFF
08.28.06 (12:03 am)   [edit]

As a side note, Evalee, if you read this, its not about you, not everything I write in here has to do with you and Neil or Brandi.  As per my last post that wasnt *just* about you either, the wedding thing was, but not all of it, so mind your own business.  If you arn't part of a realtionship dont make assumptions about it, and if you are not married then dont talk about someone else's marriage. 

I dont know how to classify everything right now, ups and down, people come and go, as per life.  I wonder lately, last couple days in fact,  if maybe I was just blind because I wanted it to work, that I didnt notice her problems because I wanted her to just be around and have that realtionship.  Turns out I couldnt trust her, that she lied and hurt me in the end.  But now she is getting help and that is good.  She needs it.  I think if the people who are important to her get some help too then maybe, just maybe things will work out in the end.  I couldnt ever have a realationship with her again though, but I would be there as friends.  If I could talk to her I would tell her, but after our last talk I dont think she will be calling me again.  I think I am ok with that.  I should have known from the begining that it wouldnt work out, that she wanted something that I was not available for.  And when she talked about other relationships that she had not fully delt with I should have figured it out sooner and not continued with the whole thing.  It dosent hurt anymore, and maybe we are better off not together.  I will still miss her somedays, like I miss Kar, but that realationship wanst any better.  Im glad that Laine is around to support me and talk to me about it all.  Even though he was in Vancouver when this was going on I could still talk with him and he could still give me sane advice and support my decisions.  I needed that more than anything.  A clear head, a sane mind, and a good word or two.

Made some great new friends.  Met them while Laine was in Vancouver, talk to them every night almost.  They are just what we need! New perspective, new ideas, new experinces.  They do as they say, not say one thing and do another, no head games, no bull shit.  And the friend experince is very lacking.  We had them over last night for dinner, with Colleen as well who just got back from Virgina and seeing her hubby to be :D.  Was a GREAT night.  Laine made dinner and we just hung out and talked. R brough over some GBA and N64 games to play on a emulator on my computer, and they both made fudge that was made with Pinto Beans!!! It was AMAZING!!! I was the only person (other than RJ of course) that knew it :D everyone tried it and were really excited about how it tasted then we told them :D it was SOOOOOO good.  Since J had to get up early for work, Colleen drove them home.  Couldnt make it up to their place due to stupid buses :(  but they will be doing Yoga with us next week, and we will get together after to finaly play Killer Bunnies!!

Dani and I are getting our massage work going.  Every sunday we will have a regular appointment with my piercer to go massage him and is apperntince.  Its been a great experince and we have gotten some amazing experince out of it as well.  Any money we make we have started to put it towards going to our Yoga classes. 

Got a new piercing too :D 4 of us from class went to get new piercings, S and I got the same thing but its a secret. LA got her lip done, and Dani got her navel and nose done.  LA got a purple ring, she was so happy that she could get a purple one :D and Dani got a blue nose stud and a navel barbell with blue stones in them.  Shes been having a hard time with her family lately so this really helped her out. 

Next month is going to be great too.  Cutting my hours at work back so I have more free time and more study time as well.  Going to see RHCP, more tattoo work on my leg, and two more tattoos on each of my foot :D Dani's birthday (same day at feet tattoos!!) and one month to my birthday *YIPPIE*

Im going to go cuddle up to my hubby now, and get some sleep before my OP tomorrow.  Should be NO problem :D I look forward to it :D

 
Manners
07.27.06 (10:31 am)   [edit]

Manners are calling someone when you cant keep plans that you made - such as if you say you are going to stop by their work but then dont show up. 

Manners are letting someone know that you want to be in a realtionship with thier partner, not expecting the other partner to get ahold of the new person.

Manners are keeping old friends even when you make new ones.

Manners are letting the old friends know that they are no longer welcome instead of letting them read it on a blog.

Manners are letting your lovers know that you care.

 lately I have been around people without manners.

 
HELLS YA!
06.26.06 (5:31 pm)   [edit]
FLOOR TICKETS TO SOAD!!!!!!!!!!!! life is good
 
Bad Jokes
06.08.06 (12:19 am)   [edit]

James is writting out our review questions on the white bord and then he turns around and says "im going to add some of my own questions along with this as well, and maybe some give away questions, like 'what does Abductor Pollicis Brevis do' and if you answer it allows for opposition of the fith digit I am going to come over there and kick your ass"

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA we all laughed so hard

Im such a geek

 
Late Night Thoughts
05.22.06 (12:40 am)   [edit]
sometimes I miss you, and I wish you were still around, but other times I wish you never happened.  Even though you are not here you still have an impact on our lives.  And when I hear about it I hurt and I dont know how to deal with it, or who to go to with it.  Thoughts in my mind about why he would listen to you more than he would belive me.  Im still upset.
 
Oh Really!
05.21.06 (2:09 pm)   [edit]
Ok, how much time do you really need to pick out porn? sure we have lots and lots of videos but really over an HOUR???!!! and if you spend any where around an hour in this store, and to not even get one movie THEN WHY ARE YOU HERE???!!! Yes its a porn store, but that dosent mean that this store is here for people to walk around and find an image to get off to in your car. Bah, I need a better job. Less hours, more pay.
 
Whoot!
05.17.06 (4:08 pm)   [edit]
Im making COOKIES!!!!! well ok not right now - as soon as I clean the kitchen - or get Laine to do it *grin* Mmmm cookies - and some special people get some special cookies ;) yummy
 
Sucked In
05.17.06 (12:48 am)   [edit]
Im hooked, yet frustrated - God Of War. Stupid spining climbing sword thingy. Im done, I give in for the night
 
And More Random
05.15.06 (1:10 am)   [edit]
Lets see... its 2am and I dont feel like sleeping. Played video games, but its not keeping things off my mind. So much to think about lately, and it seems to be making me sick...or maybe I just ate something not good for me. New tattoo, happy about that, and was really glad to have friends there for me for support, was a good distraction. I never really thought about it as replacing, concidering he was never really there, but if thats how it is going to be seen as then really its trading up *grin* Been thinking about what I want lately. Been talking to Puppy some more and he might be moving out to calgary again. Im happy for that but on the other hand its just another relationship without anything. Sure I had fun when we played, and got my kink on, but when is all said and done we go our seperate ways and dont have much connection after that. I am really happy with the people in my life right now though. I want Laine to feel better, I want him to be happy again. I want *us* to be happy again, but I guess its still a work in progress, and I love him and I will stick by him and do whatever I can to make this good for him. When I stop to think about whats going on, and what I am looking for I think it comes down to when I am really not looking thats when things work out. I know that I want to be loved and cared about, and I want to be more than just a fuck buddy. Well as long as I get something out of it too *grin* No more being used for me thank you very much. I've had it with assholes, jerks, and people who just cant be honest with me. Either you care about me or you dont. Either way just tell me, and stop being a pussy about it. No matter how many times Laine asks me whats going on with some people I still feel like its not my place to define it, at least lately. Puppy - who knows whats going to happen if he comes back? Leaf -get real, nothing going on there! E & N - I like them, and I like playing, but im going to leave it up to them and just enjoy whatever happens **and yippie for getting the ring!** Now that I got a 90% on T&T I feel more stress to keep that up. Im trying to keep positive, I just put alot of stress on myself to do well. I just want A&P to get over with and start on some new stuff. Or at least get into some more interesting stuff. Alright, brain wound down - possiblity of not being coherent in my ramblings but really, anyone who reads this can always just ask me about it.
 
School, Sex, And Other Sundry Things
05.11.06 (4:58 pm)   [edit]
Classes are going great, so much crap to learn though. Currently still doing Anat and Phys, but have now added Hydro, Palpations, and Ethics/Communication. 3 Classes a day and a whole lot of work! Seem like I have become popular with the kinksters, and yet I really dont have a huge interst in it right now. Dont get me wrong I love the playing I am doing with E & N, but I dont concider that kinky, just HOT *laughs* Just keeping in mind to take things slow for me and let other people guide and make those decisons. Yes sometimes I can behave too
 
Hmmmm
05.10.06 (9:12 pm)   [edit]
so its been a long while since an update. But do I really feel like giving one? ehhhh who knows. School is keeping me really busy, and so is work. I've met some really awesome people (E & N) ;) and they make me feel really good, and I really enjoy spending time with them. For the first time in a long time I havent felt used. That dosent make me sound very good *eep*. Still working on what I want, but I have decided to just not worry about it and enjoy what I have. Maybe let other people take over for a bit *smile* Im just really happy to have become friends with them. *grin*
 
Huh? Wha?
05.04.06 (11:39 pm)   [edit]

Blah.  Thats right Blah.

Fuck you!

 
Huh What? YEP! Its Time
03.23.06 (3:16 pm)   [edit]
My student bursary finaly came in - WHOOT massage table time people!!!! sweetness
 
Hello, Poly
03.22.06 (5:37 pm)   [edit]
This is awesome!!!!! Hello, Poly Several women navigate polyamorous relationships as a non-primary partner by Tristan Taormino A few weeks ago I was at a party with some friends, and another friend, Jane (some of the subjects' names have been changed at their request), introduced us to her cousin, who was in town visiting. "This is Kim and . . ." Jane's voice trailed off, as she wasn't quite sure how our friend Kim wanted to handle explaining the two guys on either side of her. Kim, a tall striking redhead in a sheer black shirt, turned to the man on her left and said, "This is my husband, Phil." Then, she subtly gestured to her right, "And this is my boyfriend, Dan." Polyamorous people have sexual, emotional, loving, and/or committed relationships that are ongoing with more than one person. Relationships, in fact, are what set polyamory apart from other forms of non-monogamy like swinging or occasionally hooking up for sex with other people. Polyamorists must create and maintain their complex, nontraditional relationships in a society that promotes and values monogamy as the ideal model. There's a growing list of publications, websites, groups, and events dedicated to polyamory, but most of them focus on the primary couple. There may be tips on how to transform a monogamous relationship into a non-monogamous one or, for those already in open relationships, strategies for negotiation and problem solving. Like advice I've read (and given) about how to have a threesome, most is geared toward the couple, and the third of three is given little information or support. That person is not simply a plaything or a third wheel, but a human being with as many needs, desires, and feelings as the primary couple. A few months ago, I attended "Polyamory for Non-Primary Partners," the only class I know of to address this issue. Sarah, a 36-year-old customer service representative from Virginia who taught it, spoke about how to manage secondary relationships and be a non-primary partner. Sarah is currently in four relationships with three men and one woman. She's been with one of the men for three and half years; he's a formerly primary/currently non-primary partner with whom she lives and spends one night a week; he also has a girlfriend. Next is a married man she has been with for almost three years; they see each other five to six hours a week. And Sarah has a girlfriend (who has a wife) whom she sees once or twice a month because they live in different cities. She also has Steve (she calls him "the emerging primary") who she sees three to four nights a week. Feel like you need a flow chart? Well, that's part of polyamory—it's not for the disorganized. I have been to a lot of classes on polyamory. I think the most compelling classes are not those where presenters set out a general "how-to" plan, but the ones where they speak from experience and open up about how they make their relationships work. Relationships are all in the details, and it's always rewarding when someone shares the nitty-gritty bits, which is what Sarah did. "Being in a non-primary relationship allows me to have relationships with people that I couldn't have if I were only looking for primaries. I don't have to worry about having to fit into people's lives in only one way," says Sarah. "I can have relationships with people that don't require heavy investments of time and energy, which I don't always have." Penny, a 29-year-old activist and artist, is in a relationship with a woman who has two long-term primary partners; she and Penny spend at least one long weekend a month together and talk on the phone several times a week. "I have a ton of things going on, and I don't have space in my life for a primary relationship. But to have an amazing weekend once a month where I am the focus of attention for this person and she is for me is exciting," says Penny, who admits that their relationship began as purely sexual, then evolved into more. Just as polyamory flies in the face of the traditional pairing model, choosing to be a non-primary partner contradicts all the rhetoric we learn about finding "the one," making a commitment, and being the most important person in someone's life. Choosing to be farther down on the food chain immediately has people thinking you have commitment issues, low self-esteem, or something else wrong with you. In fact, these critiques echo comments often made about the "mistress" in a cheating relationship, but the difference here is a big one: choice. While the mistress may dream of or even be promised that she'll become Girl Number One, the non-primary person knows where he or she stands in someone's life and is content there. The non-primary folks I know either don't want to be anyone's primary because of other priorities in their life or, like Sarah, want multiple relationships, some of which are with people who already have a primary partner. For some folks, there is no food chain: They eschew the concept of primary/non-primary altogether because they don't believe in the hierarchy it implies. "I'm in two relationships, and I consider them both equally important," says Cate, a San Francisco–based filmmaker. "A mother doesn't consider one of her children to be the primary child, does she?" Sarah counters, "Eventually someone has to be on top because we will be put in a position where we have to choose where our energy is going to go. If [people who reject a hierarchical model] can make that work for them, it's great. In my world, at some point you have to decide." Penny says, "We think of each relationship as different. I don't know if non-primary is the word I would use, but there is no other word, so it's like the default." Regardless of semantics, what these women do have in common is their emphasis on being very aware of their wants and needs. Sarah stressed that people must have good boundaries and practice honest negotiation and communication to make polyamory work. For her, it has great rewards: "If I wasn't poly and willing to be someone's non-primary partner, I would miss out on incredible people and the lessons I've learned from them. I will trade the silly fantasy [of one true love] for multiple functioning relationships any day of the week."
 
Election Day
01.23.06 (3:43 pm)   [edit]
Well Election Day in Canada at least. I just voted. Has anyone else? Im so excited. This is the second time I ever voted. Only due to the fact that even though I was 18 I didnt live in the same province for a year *being a student* then all that moving between provinces *BOO* Oh well. It feels good. Not an easy decission but I made a decission.
 
No Really
01.23.06 (10:58 am)   [edit]
Im not mad at them, or eachother on their own. Or even the fact that they are going to work on friendship. Im happy about that. What I am mad about is that I feel lied to, decived even. Thats she just couldnt tell me the truth so she is just ignoreing me now. Thats fucking great. Just going to take time I guess.
 
Way To Fuck
01.22.06 (8:36 pm)   [edit]
Was shown this site last night by a friend - called Kittyhate.com Its a masturbation site. I think since I am currently at work in a porn store, now is the perfect time to check it out. Who knows, might be fun. Gawd knows I am so bored here right now. Stupid 11 hr shifts.
 
WHOOT!
01.19.06 (12:04 pm)   [edit]
Three Cheers for the Pudendal Nerve!!!!
 
The Jig Is Up
01.18.06 (4:14 pm)   [edit]
http://www.ps260.com/editors/hein_goth.html
 
...
01.18.06 (3:50 pm)   [edit]
Good Bye Karin :( I guess
 
So You Know...
01.12.06 (3:13 pm)   [edit]

Changing schools is not quitting!

 
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